I’d like to explore the ways in which abuse functions in the novel. As previously stated by Nick, the novel makes it very clear that Ash had a much stronger relationship with her mother than with her father. She spends a great deal of time mourning her mother’s death and recalling fond memories that the two of them shared. Because of this, we learn a great deal more about her mother than we do about her father, despite the fact that he is a living character and she is not. Soon his actions make it very evident that he has fully recovered from the death of his once-beloved wife and that he intends to move forward with his life by remarrying. In doing so, he makes it very clear that he cares very little for the opinion of his daughter and thus their relationship is further developed as one that consists of little compassion or love. Thus, the novel has established Ash as a character who, since the death of her mother, does not receive love from anyone in her life, and in fact is abused by those who are supposed to be closest to her. She is a child who must grow up in a loveless, compassionless, toxic environment. Surely then, it makes sense why she puts herself into harmful situations with faeries just for the small possibility of seeing her mother again. It also makes sense why she falls so easily into an abusive relationship with Sidhean; it’s a relationship that she recognizes and one that, while not necessarily being ideal, is familiar.

What I’d really like to explore is how this representation of abuse effects/relates to young readers and, more specifically, young readers in the queer community. How might this abusive, possessive relationship between a young woman and a toxic, hypermasculine man resonate? What might this relationship teach? How might it affect perceptions of “normality”/heteronormativity/etc?

5 responses to “Abuse in Ash”

  1. I was also really interested in Ash’s relationship with Sidhean for this reason. I was shocked by the contractual relationship between the two characters, and trading sex/love in order to help Ash spend more time with Kaisa. The whole thing felt really exploitative—coercing a vulnerable younger girl into a contractual sex/love relationship in order to help her get closer to Kaisa seemed really unethical. Additionally, the way Sidhean was able to magically manipulate Ash’s feelings for him was really nonconsensual and disturbing. I worry that young readers may not see the danger in this relationship, especially given Ash seemed to think this was a fair deal and she accepted her fate with Sidhean. I appreciated Lo’s attempts to critique heteropatriarchy throughout this book, but felt that her message needed to be clearer, especially for younger readers.

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    1. I totally agree! I think the message about abusive relationships may go over a lot of young readers’ heads. Either this novel should have been geared toward older readers who could understand the underlying themes of abuse OR it should have a more explicit theme so that young readers aren’t confused about its messages.

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    2. I totally agree too. I really think Lo needs to make the message clearer if she intends the audience to be teens. At the same time, I wonder if Ash and Sidhean’s relationship is really abusive. Because isn’t Sidhean really easy on Ash? If it was another human girl, he would just have used her without a second thought. Because it’s Ash, he makes exceptions and contracts with her, and in the end sends her off to Kaisa. I’m puzzled, just WHAT is their relationship? is it sex or is it pure love or nothing much at all?

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  2. One part that struck me was the inconsideration of her father to marry and expand their family unit without prior notice to Ash. I think the sudden (negative) addition to her family unit that was beyond her control makes the control and ability to choose to have a relationship with Sidhean more desirable to Ash. Even though there are aspects that may concern her (she did live with a functioning, happy relationship between her parents) she ignores any concerns because she believes it is her own choice. Because she consents to the initial relationship, she is unable to see the nonconsensual aspects of their relationship.

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    1. Right! Good point. I think this also deals with what @erinrosenfeld was saying about young readers potentially not understanding why this is a problem. If young readers see their protagonist make muddy mistakes that don’t have clear correct answers, they may not understand how the protagonist is making poor decisions. I think Ash’s narrative arc regarding abuse is relatively realistic (in that it is likely that someone in her position would be unable to immediately see how her relationship with Sidhean is abusive) but, as I said before, I think this would go over young readers’ heads. Which is definitely a problem.

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